"Waste no more time arguing about what a good man should be. Be one."
— Marcus Aurelius
Does it seem that wherever you look people are so quick to point the fingers and judge others? Whining and complaining about how someone else is behaving, how the neighbor isn‘t taking care of their lawn, their kids, or what have you. We even have our opinion as to how the world should be run. The real question we need to ask ourselves is, what are WE doing to change the world and make it a better place for everyone? Why are we wasting so much time criticizing, when we should be spending time doing something about it. After all, actions do speak louder than words, don’t they?
I know how disheartening it can be when you do something nice for someone or lend a helping hand and don‘t even get a simple “thank you” in return. This used to make me so angry that it became difficult to go anywhere without arriving home in complete disgust with humanity.
The problem here was that I was focusing my attention on the inconsiderate jerks of the world which naturally made them multiply all around me. I felt attacked by the masses, so I’d fire back making me no better, this was my life.
Now I attempt to focus my attention on people who are considerate, kind and respectful, and low and behold there are good people everywhere!
This same strategy can be applied even on a global scale. We know that there is much devastation and suffering in our world today, but there is also great beauty and wonderful acts of humanity being performed as we speak.
The key here is to not to get too far ahead of yourself and to do as much as you can in YOUR everyday life to help, one random act of kindness at a time. Don’t give up and get disheartened by the media, or whether or not someone responds to your smile at the supermarket (believe me it’s never personal anyway). “Come on you have more faith and strength than that, you’re a survivor!” (as my Grammy used to say).
Take a little time to look outside of yourself and you will see how much we are all alike, and how each of us is just as confused about life as the next guy. When you do something nice for your fellow man you’ll get a new found sense of community and love for your neighbor.
Listen to your heart and it will guide you to providing someone with exactly what they needed that day, a smile, a nice compliment, or a little hope for humanity.
Try doing at least one good deed a day for a week, and let me know how your personal reality is transformed!