Coming from an extremely co-dependent environment as a
child. Where boundaries were crossed and
the adults were sleeping and selfish tangled in their own web of problems. How could they think about our wants and
needs, their focus was on themselves and no-one else. Actually the motto at that time was that
children were seen and not heard.
times I was forced to do things that were uncomfortable to me, but that didn't matter because no one heard me or even cared what my needs or wants were. This continued into my adulthood and into all
of my relationships where I found that I had a problem with saying no. Even though it hurt me and I suffered the
consequences on the others behalf I could not say no. I ended up turning into the classic
martyr. Until I couldn't do it anymore,
until I got so backed up with anger I became explosive, and shut everyone out
of my life because I figured everyone would do the same thing to me, overstep
my boundaries and hurt me. Then I found
myself on an island alone…asking myself “how can we stop treating each other
this way so we can feel comfortable here?”
It starts with me, standing up and voicing my own
needs. It starts with me deciding to listen
to others needs, to care about what they want and to not push past their
boundaries, even if I don’t agree with them.
Remembering to respect each other and love one-another
unconditionally. If someone tells you
no, then listen. The pain that you feel
when someone oversteps your boundaries is horrible, this makes you feel angry,
hopeless and powerless. This is
imprisonment, and although we don’t realize how this effects us energetically
we see it in our society as people are on the brinks of a melting down all the
time because they are constantly doing what they do not want to be doing, being
forced, and not knowing how to say no, because they don’t even know that they
have a voice.
I am here to remind you that you have a voice, and you do
not have to do what makes you feel uncomfortable. This way perhaps we can remember our values,
and stick to them. We don’t have to be
swayed by anyone. If someone loves you
they will listen and care about your needs, they will not want to push or force
you into doing anything you do not want to do.
If we just start listening and caring…we can make this world
a much softer and gentler world one person at a time.
You should never have to do something that hurts and damages
your soul to appease another person, each time you do that you loose a part of
We have a voice!