At the root is the starving, helpless, innocent child that
has no love. This makes her think she is
going to die, and the rest of his/her life is spent trying to survive (whether this survival is real or perceived). No one has been
there for her…she has not been able to trust anyone or rely on anyone she was
forced to do everything herself in order to survive.
How can she come together with others? How can
she trust? How does she know how to decipher? She has never really let anyone
in, but wants that closeness and intimacy more than anything. She is starved to
feel comfortable to belong and to be wanted, but she was never wanted, so she
keeps perpetuating the same situation, attracting relationships where she is
She feels like the reject of the tribe, since she has never
fit in. She believes that she is
incredibly flawed. She wants more than
anything to be understood, and to be seen, but she doesn't know how to do it,
yet she is terrified of it, she is so scared of being seen by too many because
she is painfully shy and wonders if she even exists. She has always been quiet, she is afraid to
make any noise out of fear of disturbing the scary/angry adults because if they
see or hear her they will get mad and punish her. She is incredibly sensitive to energy.
How do we let this scared inner child know she is safe? let
her know that she can fit in here?
When the child gets older if she finds someone she is
comfortable with she becomes clingy, overly loyal and co-dependent, she feels
like she will die without that person because of her fear of rejection,
becoming over bearing on the partner and creating that self fulfilling prophecy
because the other feels smothered and leaves.
Once she is rejected yet again, she is likely resign herself
to the fact that she will always be alone confirming her belief that she has to
do everything alone and shutting herself off to the outside world. This is safer.
How can our rejected inner children come into balance? So we
can come back together as brothers and sisters and co-create a comfortable
world for ourselves and our children?
I am praying today for peace for the rejected children so
they can feel loved here, safe, and accepted, truly knowing they
belong. So they may be seen and
understood. Together we can heal,
together we can feel comfortable! You/me are not alone.