It’s sayings like “an eye for an eye” or “if you can’t beat them join them” or “what goes around comes around” that keeps vengeance and hurt perpetually spinning forth and keeps us in this warring mindset.
This is how we stay stuck and lose ourselves, secretly hoping and wishing that someone pay for what they have done TO us in the name of fairness and “justice”. But we are all learning and have different perspectives, and the bottom line being who are we to judge? Really? to judge another’s path and what they are doing? Project what may be wrong or right to us onto them?.
I realize how I have lost myself this way in the past, because I ended being vindictive slyly disguised as “justice”. But in the end I am no different from the man who hurt me, because I am wanting to hurt him just as bad.
I have decided to stop this behavior and to be nice, even if I am hurt to wish no harm on another, as hard as that may seem or what injustice I feel has occurred. All I can do is to continue being true to myself, and my true self wants to do NO HARM. Remaining focused on my own actions and behaviors, because at the end of the day it is myself and my own conscience that I have to contend with.
The questions I ask myself are, am I doing the right things? taking the right action and being as kind, loving and humane as I can possibly be?. I am also remembering that we are all learning, and to let it go, simply let it go and trust. Most importantly I am learning to communicate my own needs, and not deviate from my true self, my own dignity and values, no matter what. I believe through direct and honest communication a lot of this type of drama can be avoided in the first place.